farside wrote:I don't know the male perspective on this. I hear stories about being called a virgin and how men react to the statement.
Women on the other hand well it a case by case study.
Some are happy to be called virgins. Some are insulted. Some will laugh at you for said statement.
Usually virgin isn't an insult from a female point of view
but I know most get insulted by being called a slut.
I say ask multiple men what they think if someone said what TSQ said and ask how they would react.
Personally I found it insulting.
I agree with all of this especially the bolded part.
And to that bolded person, I have never met a woman be offended by being called a virgin, unless they dress like a whore to the point that no one wants to sleep with them (then I just laugh).
There is a reason why some call down there a flower, or sacred. Most women want sex with feelings, not for the sake of losing their virginity.
Just so you understand. I come from a very weird family. On one side is the starchy don't do this, don't be like this and always be a lady.
The other side is very sexual and open family.
My mom didn't care as long as you were protected. However being a virgin past the age of 18 is a novalty in CA never mind my family.
Now mind you I'm 34 with a child so this is just so you understand the being offended part.
One day I was getting a ride home from a guy I knew at work. I was 20 and still a virgin. He told me when we talked that the only women who are virgins are 8 year olds who have not slept with their brother.
It was pretty offensive to me at that age and upsetting. I never thought anything wrong with waiting but some people made it seem like a joke. Hence why after a certain point I didn't care either and felt offended with the jokes. But once again this is from a virgin 20 year old that is long gone.
Sarcasm is just a way of saying how stupid you think someone is but in a more polite way.
I will be the first to say calling your vagina a flower is weird. That's like the guys who call their penis a name, like Joe. Or Bob.
Weird. But beside the point, methinks.
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Green Crayons wrote:I will be the first to say calling your vagina a flower is weird. That's like the guys who call their penis a name, like Joe. Or Bob.
Weird. But beside the point, methinks.
I never said
I
did. Some do. Some also call it Australia, don't ask me why they just do.
Farside wrote:Just so you understand. I come from a very weird family. On one side is the starchy don't do this, don't be like this and always be a lady.
The other side is very sexual and open family.
My mom didn't care as long as you were protected. However being a virgin past the age of 18 is a novalty in CA never mind my family.
Now mind you I'm 34 with a child so this is just so you understand the being offended part.
One day I was getting a ride home from a guy I knew at work. I was 20 and still a virgin.
He told me when we talked that the only women who are virgins are 8 year olds who have not slept with their brother.
It was pretty offensive to me at that age and upsetting. I never thought anything wrong with waiting but some people made it seem like a joke. Hence why after a certain point I didn't care either and felt offended with the jokes. But once again this is from a virgin 20 year old that is long gone.
Well virgins at 18 are odd too, because all the kids do around here is get drunk and/or high and have sex. (Living in the suburbs sucks)
@Bolded: That is just wrong and that guy is a dumb ass. That'd be the point where I drew the line of talking with him.
My family is shaped like yours. Open on one side, Uptight on the other.
And you and I come at this from different stages of our lives. I'm 18 and still technically a virgin (I don't count my ex-girlfriend and what we did, and I'm not going there).
wolf wrote:And to that bolded person, I have never met a woman be offended by being called a virgin, unless they dress like a whore to the point that no one wants to sleep with them (then I just laugh).
Wow. Here, in the thread about how comments about appearance can be offensive, you've made a statement like this. Beautiful irony.
far wrote:One day I was getting a ride home from a guy I knew at work. I was 20 and still a virgin. He told me when we talked that the only women who are virgins are 8 year olds who have not slept with their brother.
He screwed up the joke big time. Don't know if I'd excommunicate him for it, but it's still pretty bad. Here's the joke...
Q: How do you find a virgin in Arkansas?
A: Look for an eight-year-old who can outrun her brothers.
I was not offended by the virgin comment because first of all Im not a virgin and most importantly, it made me laugh (specially the alpaca part) because it came from a person who didnt have more arguments to prove his point and used the insult road.
I know that he tried to insult me. Its OK to argue and to debate and stay honest with your ideas but you dont have to be a dick to argue. You also dont have to put all people in the same bag. If there is something that insults me is that people think Im being sexually frustrated when I WAS ONLY COMMENTING IN A NICE PIC OF A NICE GIRL THAT PLAYS GAMES IN THIS SITE.
Of course Im talking only about me. I dont care about others. I just want my freedom to comment in whatever the fuck I want (as long as I dont cross the line) and not be bombarded with comments from people that think they are way better than others. Here is a hint: YOU ARE NOT.
JDodge wrote:
Shea was pointing out the creepiness of tajo and others while stating his own opinion as to why their behaviour is creepy.
It's really not, you know. If someone posts a picture of themselves on a forum, in a thread like that, they generally expect some kind of comment on it. Saying that someone looks good in a context like that is not creepy at all.
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I agree with that guy. You know the guy that everybody always agrees with cause he is real agreeable and good at knowing what others want to say and think. What was his name again? Damn if only there as an easy to use smiley or wide spread meme I could refer too right here.
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JDodge wrote:
Shea was pointing out the creepiness of tajo and others while stating his own opinion as to why their behaviour is creepy.
It's really not, you know. If someone posts a picture of themselves on a forum, in a thread like that, they generally expect some kind of comment on it. Saying that someone looks good in a context like that is not creepy at all.
Much less creepy then knowing what ABR calls his penis.
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far wrote:One day I was getting a ride home from a guy I knew at work. I was 20 and still a virgin. He told me when we talked that the only women who are virgins are 8 year olds who have not slept with their brother.
He screwed up the joke big time. Don't know if I'd excommunicate him for it, but it's still pretty bad. Here's the joke...
Q: How do you find a virgin in Arkansas?
A: Look for an eight-year-old who can outrun her brothers.
I take it as a joke more. My sister and I exchange jokes as follows.
She called me an 8 year old (based on this story and my age increased after I lost my virginity)
I call her a cherry pick (another joke from a show on TV)
We go back and forth on names that had meaning in our life at one point or another.
Sarcasm is just a way of saying how stupid you think someone is but in a more polite way.